Adults with ADHD may experience a vast amount of emotional pain. Grief, regret, shame and fear are commonly known experienced feelings. This is because adults with ADHD may have memories about what you may have missed doing in your life. The recollections of these blunders could make you feel bad because you were scared to fail, feared criticism, dreaded facing uncertainty, or felt frozen by the discomfort you projected in encountering a challenge. Managing these feelings is not an easy task, but no worries; it is possible by trying a few of these techniques.
Ground Yourself In the Present – Start where you are. Until you accept where you are, you won’t be able to move forward. Get real with yourself and shine a light on all the things that are not serving you well. This is when you should sit fully with the reality of the present moment and allow yourself to feel any and all the feelings that come up for you. Often our ADHD stuckness happens because we are trying to steer clear of what we are feeling. It is very important to just let yourself feel them and remember this is not wrong, they are just what they are. When you feel them, you can get them up and out which leaves you with more determination and simplicity.
Create A Vision – Get a vision on what you see for yourself. You have sensed that there is something better, but what does it look like? Focus on the vision on a daily basis and maybe create a vision board. When you focus on your vision it allows you to align your thoughts with an action so that every part of you can work together for your best interest.
Make A Decision – Take a look at the road you are presently on and then take a look at your vision. Ask yourself where do you want to go? Make a decision to move forward towards to vision no matter what. It all begins with a decision. Know that you can handle whatever the road takes you.
Get Honest– Once you have made the decision & you know where you are going, what are you afraid of? One way to find out is to do a free form writing exercise with “fears” written at the top. Be honest about what you in fear of; seriously write it all down, no one is going to see this except you. Now burn it, release your fears through your body and onto the paper and into the nothingness.
Make It Bigger Than Yourself- When you make the choice to live a full expressed life, you are inspiring others to do the same thing. What change in the world would you want someone to embody or inspire? Get clear on this. When you have your own mission beyond yourself, every choice that you make not only affects you but those around and close to you. Each little step forward becomes a little bit simpler when you think of your bigger mission.
Look For the Silver Lining – Everything that you have done that brought you to this moment, all of your past choices, all of the things that has brought you embarrasses you, filed you with regret, molded you to become your best self. It can be the hardest to see in the moment, but it is the truth.
Get Support– Open up to those closest to you in your life, someone who understands or who has been there done that and or someone who is going through the same thing. You don’t have to do this alone. Make this easy for yourself and seek support in any way possible. We all feel fear and we can all move through them to live the life’s that we want.